The story of Miss KYABAKURA(Hostess Club) who became TOP among 3000 hostesses

Recently, I have been receiving more and more concerns about the future from women or female friends including hostess friends at the hostess club.

There is a story I like that seems to be useful at these times. I read it in a business book somewhere, but I cannot remember where … I cannot find it on the internet either, so I will write it down in NOTE.

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The story needs a little preface, but as Adler says

100% of your worries are interpersonal relationships. 

Ultimately, if you are the only one on earth, you will not care about clothes or educational background. Also, the other person does not care about you as much as you think.

Some people may not like their faces and abilities, but life is a theatre, like riding a gambling train until you die. If you are unlucky, your bet (selection) was wrong, then THE END.

When you think of life as gambling, your face and abilities are the first five cards in mah-jong and poker.

There is no point in complaining about the distribution and the cards dealt. It will not improve the results nor will be any supporters.

The most interesting part in life is, even with a card like a pig, if your next card is good, and with ingenuity, you can beat the opponent who has a stronger card. 

Life is a gambling train, so luck can make a big difference.

I’ve lived for 46 years, but in order to get lucky on the gambling train, I think that the best way to think about it is to “live a healthy life loved by God .”

People who are loved by God are those who enjoy the game without complaining to the players around smiling but GIVE than RECEIVE, even though it is an unpleasant arrangement. I love the flowers blooming in the other person’s heart, even though it is nothing that I benefit from. God would like a healthy person like this.

And, in my experience, God really gives me a lot of PRESENT.

The word PRESENT in English means NOW and GIFT.

PRESENT= a gift. So, cherish this moment “now and here”. God may be angry, if people are not smiling and all the unpleasant the worst can happen.

Because it’s the worst to just receive a PRESENT from another person and not thank or thank him. Such a person will not usually attract the opposite sex. 

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Returning to the main subject,

The story was about 1 girl(Hostess) who worked in a Hostess club in Hokkaido, who became the top Hostess among the 3000 girls.

Her face was normal. There were even more good looking girls. It seems that her personality, her feelings, and her concern were also normal. However, there is a story that shows why this hostess became the TOP.

When the customer gave her a tip of 10,000 yen, she would refuse. Normally, anyone would like to receive more. .. .. .. However, after the customer persistently asked her to, “Please take the tip.”, she would always refuse.

The she would rather tell the customer, “Then, can you give me only 1000 yen?” The customer will be “What? Why?” surprised. Then the girl whispers in his ear,

“Because it’s your precious money, I want to spend it carefully. So, I want you to rather eat your favourite ramen and spend on yourself. I’m happy just that.”

This was already grasping the man’s heart and feeling. However, this was not just the end. The next time she meets the customer, she would tell him

“This is the precious money change from last time.”

Then she would return the change.

This is not the about the amount of money, “My heart is talking”

There aren’t many girls like this anymore, and because of their “attractiveness as a person”, it won’t be a battle with a hostess who only has the good looks.

Hostess club is a place to enjoy the feel of romance therefore such story is the true essence in the business. I believe business = partial pseudo-marriage, so this story is also useful in business.


1. GIVE more than what you receive

2. Enjoy pseudo-romance and partial pseudo-marriage

3. Focus on the true attractiveness as a person

From the perspective of architecture, a person can ruin the city, or a pervert that may bring the city back to life.

I have been thinking what I can do, how I can contribute to revitalize Japan. It may sound exaggerated but seriously, I start talking to the investors.

Mr. D, an investor talked me in for 2hours…

 “Atami is totally dead”  “BnB has no future”
So narrow it down to the cities that is profitable, do whatever you want to do, and move on to the next place.

As expected, such statement comes from someone whose background went through robbing, exploiting, discriminating for 500 years.

 >> In the end, I got it.
 The story itself is quite rational and easy to understand.

The background and culture are basically not considered. From the perspective of whether or not you will make money in the short term. Basically, only people who are at a minimum should be happy.
That is the correct answer, of course. It is considered by some to be the right choice.

However, I have been wondering such thoughts or decision won’t make everyone in the long run. I felt sick about the thought of not being able to make the fun decision that eventually bring happiness in life for the people.
I went to the beach for a walk……

Actually, there is no correct answer to it. 

In a foreign land, if I thought only to make a profit, ignored the feelings of people and the ambience and culture of the town, just kept on building for the beneficial of investors…move on to the next location….
After 100 years, how will my grandchildren be? Will they ever get any support from someone? This came across my mind. That is not only the reason, but I was able to grasp the greatness of Japan’s ancestors. 

A hundred years ago,  “exploitation and killing” was for the benefit of its homeland for them.
On the other hand, as an individual person who now have a little time to spare , acted by thinking about what they could do to the extremely poor people in front of them.

When it comes to making a decision, one thing that matters.
“don’t let your grandchildren laugh as a person in future generations.”

With that in mind, I thought about the differences with
the ethnic groups who mainly adhered to the development of local people, such as hospitals, infrastructure, education, political systems, etc., which advanced the local modernization .

Taiwanese and Filipino people(Japanophilo) who put their profits and losses aside and yet can do various things for the benefit of others….are still here.

I felt…

“The soul remains” that is far more valuable.


There are people who asks. Is there anything that we can do for the city that is dead? 

While taking a walk, I talked with I, who loves design, and M, who loves Japan.
They both said,
” I want to do it because the city is dead”
They must be crazy!

Life becomes interesting and exciting because such people with craziness does exists. If life is only about making 1+1=2, we cannot make a life theatre but becomes dull.

If everyone were just rational, it would never be fun but lonely. 
There may be something that we can do. That was it.

I thought it is not too bad to be a pervert!


Atami, which was incredibly famous in Japan, came down due to the rise of foreign countries, but it was also because it was developed by investors/companies from speculative purposes.

Also, it is a city that has been damaged by speculations such as giving a high image and thinking only by adhesion, ignoring all the scenery and culture of the city.

Atami was once the most favourite place to visit for everyone. It takes only 40 minutes by bullet train to the hot springs and the sea and Mt. Fuji from Tokyo. It is really close, so it’s easy to go, and I think it’s a hidden gem. For me personally, my favourite is always the 8th in the class.

After all, “passion that cannot be yielded” is the true freedom.  “I like the idea of pervert that goes beyond immediate profit and loss.”

The city is connected to the past, present and future, not just our own at present. With that in mind, I shall plan what I want to do.